What is Bullying?It can be physical violence or verbal and emotional abuse. Sometimes it includes both. So someone bullied its intimidation harassment or even physical contact that can often be repeated and can be at the hands of one or more people. The person who’s being bullied really feels like they don’t have to power to stop what happens to them. Bullying can happen in different ways.
Physical bullyingThis can be includes
- Someone taking to breaking your stuff
Emotional bullyingEmotional bullying includes
- Starting rumors
- Yelling at someone
- Excluding someone from a group intentionally
Cyber bullyingThis includes
- Abusive or hurtful texts, emails or posts, images or videos
- Deliberately excluding others online
- Nasty gossip or rumors
- Imitating others online or using their log-in.
A person who is cyberbullying really can’t get away from the bullying because they are always exposed to their social media and so they really can’t have any safe spot to hide from the bully or have to be spent from the bully.
Who can be most likely to be bullied?Anyone can get bullied. Doesn’t matter who are you, what you do or what you’re into. But the most common victims of bullying are:
- Into learning and studying
- Have some sort of disability
- When have a certain belief or specific faith the bully hates
- Have some sort of race or nationality the bully doesn’t like (racist or xenophobic bullying)
- When have sexuality the bully doesn’t like (homophobic bullying if the victim is gay or lesbian)
- Make the bully jealous because the victim may have better qualities
- Merely into something the bully hates
- Just a random target the bully chose to take all their anger out (usually because of childhood trauma or lack of role models)
What are the effects of bullying?Effects that happens to who are bullied
- Low self-esteem
- Insecurity in public situations
- Fear of rejection
- Being unable to trust others
- Difficulty making and keeping friends
- Stronger introverted tendencies than before
- Scared to try new things
- Hurt physically, emotionally, and mentally
- Drug and alcohol problems
- Desire for revenge
- Mental illness
- Feeling like a loser
- Being depressed
- Thick skin
- Hatred for bullies (A very small number of bullied children might retaliate through extremely violent measures. In 12 of 15 school shooting cases in the 1990s, the shooters had a history of being bullied.)
How can we get rid from bullying, How to deal with a bully?
What you can do to change the game. The bully doesn’t have their influence like what they are doing right now. Ignore them if you can. Many bullies feed off of attention.
The main reason someone will bully you is to get you to demonstrate in front of others that they outrank you socially. Whatever you do in response to their actions must reflect the fact that you don’t believe they have a higher status than you, and that you don’t care what they think of you.
If they say something demeaning to you (e.g. ‘hey shit-face’ or ‘why is your butt so big’), don’t ignore it, or respond with something angry. Both of these reveal that you care what they think of you, and thus that they outrank you. Instead either say something that suggests that you outrank them (e.g. ‘that’s not the way to win friends’) or something that suggests that you consider their statement to have been made in jest.
What you say isn’t as important as how you say it. When you respond, you need to smile, lean back, and laugh a little. You need to communicate the fact that you are the high-status person and they are the weakling with something to prove.
Also, you can change yourself. You should sow to the bully you don’t afraid him or her.
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Here are some tips for you to change yourself…
Get fit in physically, it will improve your body strength and your confidence. You can simply do pushups, sit-ups early in the morning.
Hear to music, this will help you to feel better.
Upgrade your story about the bully, Change your point of view about him or her. Try to give a kind, calm, rational answer. Not every bully realizes they are bullying. Some people will actually appreciate being rescued from their anger or fear that drives them to their bullying behavior.
The story you have to build…You have to build up your story about who are you.
- How strong you are
- How smart you are
- How you’re confident
- And how other people there to support you and care about you.
Stick up for others
Nothing says ‘high status’ quite so much as sticking up for other people. So a bully is bullying you then chances are they are bullying someone else too. If you see a bully picking on someone then confront them and calmly tell them their behavior is out of line. Confronting someone for being mean to you can run the risk of looking like they’ve ‘got to you’, but confronting them about their treatment of others is a clear assertion of authority.
If you are an outsider (different race, different background, different sexuality, and different intelligence level, whatever)…
Then you are probably going to get bullied to some extent whatever you do, simply because you are the outsider, and bullying you let others assert their membership of the group. In this case, the best solution is just to be proud of your race, background, intelligence, sexuality, etc., and wait until you can leave the school and go find people who will identify with you. If you are smart, then you’ll be much happier when you go to a top university. You are gay, then you’ll be much happier when you move to a city with a gay population.
At last, I want to say don’t worry about what your bully says. Just believe in yourself. Cheers!